tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19429534.post952232938327683000..comments2023-10-12T05:50:45.076-04:00Comments on This can't be it: And there he was this young boy, stranger to my eyes...kelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01982496933879300175noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19429534.post-23049585400709793062010-12-05T04:57:02.913-05:002010-12-05T04:57:02.913-05:00Great post, I am almost 100% in agreement with you...Great post, I am almost 100% in agreement with youAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19429534.post-57651464016954041812007-07-24T00:27:00.000-04:002007-07-24T00:27:00.000-04:00Hi there, just discovered yr blog. It is so raw an...Hi there, just discovered yr blog. It is so raw and real and relevant. I'm from LI too BTW, but am very very far from there right now.<BR/><BR/>LLeahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01908167719559477953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19429534.post-18387880487794786562007-07-23T13:08:00.000-04:002007-07-23T13:08:00.000-04:00How are you, Kel? It's been awhile since you have...How are you, Kel? It's been awhile since you have posted.<BR/>Peace,<BR/>ScoutAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19429534.post-34020683020003478552007-07-20T14:20:00.000-04:002007-07-20T14:20:00.000-04:00Come on by for a looky loo of my weekend post if y...Come on by for a looky loo of my weekend post if ya have some time Kel..xo TabTabitha.Montgomeryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07462651710980805568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19429534.post-12193410485472704982007-07-19T11:35:00.000-04:002007-07-19T11:35:00.000-04:00psst..today is Scouts belly button birthday..pass ...psst..today is Scouts belly button birthday..pass it on...Tabitha.Montgomeryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07462651710980805568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19429534.post-69325028799435502242007-07-18T14:49:00.000-04:002007-07-18T14:49:00.000-04:00Kel-You can email me-Phone me-Snail mail me-Come p...Kel-You can email me-Phone me-Snail mail me-Come pounding at my door and awake me-any-time.K? lol<BR/>xo TabTabitha.Montgomeryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07462651710980805568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19429534.post-3033404552201821302007-07-18T12:58:00.000-04:002007-07-18T12:58:00.000-04:00Whatever your son's motives were for getting drunk...Whatever your son's motives were for getting drunk, the bottom line is he got drunk when he is suppose to be clean & sober. He is going down a dangerous and familar road. You did the right thing. You can love him & support him butyou will not accept his behavior.As far as your husband, well he is acting exactly like an alcoholic acts, "with indifference" to all those around him. Sadly, your son is not only an alcoholic/addict himself but is the child of an alcoholic which makes this disease so hard.Just remember the three C's. You cannot control him, cure him nor did you cause it. Hang in there, Kel.Patricia Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07231036049535477708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19429534.post-16165339506172960522007-07-18T12:50:00.000-04:002007-07-18T12:50:00.000-04:00You were there, period. That's all you can do.You were there, period. That's all you can do.Beth Blairhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11318506551967913628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19429534.post-10522206293440251982007-07-18T12:15:00.000-04:002007-07-18T12:15:00.000-04:00Kel, I think that Tab is right on with her comment...Kel, I think that Tab is right on with her comment. You have shown him that you love him and will support him, but you also won't accept unacceptable behavior from him, you won't rescue him, and you will allow him the dignity to make his own mistakes. He needs to know that you won't enable him in any way. It sounds as if AH has his own share of issues and can't let go of the selfishness long enough to think about anyone else. I wish that things are different but for now take care of Kel.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19429534.post-41401591242234648842007-07-17T16:46:00.000-04:002007-07-17T16:46:00.000-04:00Oh and look who the first here to comment is..me.T...Oh and look who the first here to comment is..me.The one who is trying to stay offline for abit.<BR/>Okay..I will be honest ..after your last post Kel..I have been thinking about and hoping you were holding up under such stress right now.I know you are and will.<BR/>BUT that doesn't make life easy even when you do deal with it huh?<BR/>DEaling with this kind of stuff is hard on the heart.I can relate so very well it almost made me cry.<BR/>Yes.Our boys need thier biological Fathers to step up to the parental plate and show some faith in thier sons.But like your ex.Mine is also an active alcoholic ..etc.<BR/>I know your sons anger and resentment.I know it in my own son.<BR/>I know yours too Kel-that's why this post almost made me cry.<BR/>The best we can do for our boys is to never put them down .They have been hurt enough by thier Dads.<BR/>We can teach our boys to stand up and take responsibility for themselves.Maybe that will eventually help them accept the things they cannot change-their Dads.<BR/>You keep believing in your son Kel.<BR/>No matter how frustrated you get,<BR/>letting him go will give him the dignity to rise again on his own.<BR/>Like a man.I see this working for my son now.He is not as bad off and I leave his own for him to own.<BR/>HOly Shmoly..long comment.<BR/>Can you imagine our gab fest when we meet?! LOL<BR/>sending you love and serenity.<BR/>Tab xoTabitha.Montgomeryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07462651710980805568noreply@blogger.com