tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19429534.post6796645703506438744..comments2023-10-12T05:50:45.076-04:00Comments on This can't be it: Waking up to find another day...kelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01982496933879300175noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19429534.post-12593700574831298312007-06-08T21:54:00.000-04:002007-06-08T21:54:00.000-04:00You should be commended for such honesty, and for ...You should be commended for such honesty, and for sticking with it through everything.<BR/><BR/>I have to agree with Pat. I see some red flags with wanting to be with the same friends - and needing a sponsor and the program.<BR/><BR/>Leaving his program is a dangerous period. There is a false sense of graduation applied to leaving something like this, and for addicts, that's a dangerous thing.<BR/><BR/>You're in my prayers.Alanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01085756748590150853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19429534.post-89513433601398867942007-06-08T14:18:00.000-04:002007-06-08T14:18:00.000-04:00I agree with what Pat says --all of it.Personally,...I agree with what Pat says --all of it.<BR/>Personally, I could not hang with anyone from my using days for even a minute or I would get high. But I had to "prove" that to myself over and over through relapsing with them before I would believe it was really true. I thought I was different, too, kel --most of us do for a little while. I wish he WOULD read the literature because that is where I learned I really was just like everyone else at the meetings. I was all over that book --on every page there was something about me.<BR/>And, by the way, I am 19+ months clean and my gf has 16 frickin years clean and we still go to five meetings a week. For both us, it absolutely had to become a way of life -- not just a meeting to show up at once in a while.<BR/>You take care of YOU, too, kel. Keep sticking with Tab and Pat. They have the E, S, and H here from the parent's side.<BR/>Peace and LOVE,<BR/>ScoutAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19429534.post-82738897823450088482007-06-08T13:42:00.000-04:002007-06-08T13:42:00.000-04:00We are powerless over our kids choices in life at ...We are powerless over our kids choices in life at this point Kel.<BR/>They are pretty much adults.<BR/>My first born son is 18 now too.<BR/>I am glad to read you see you need to heal yourself.I think that is the best example we can give our kids at this point.And to always remind them we believe in them .<BR/>You are a loving human Kel..<BR/>Thanks for sharing.<BR/>Tab xoTabitha.Montgomeryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07462651710980805568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19429534.post-15174701047596386602007-06-08T13:38:00.000-04:002007-06-08T13:38:00.000-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Tabitha.Montgomeryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07462651710980805568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19429534.post-79097713676687167672007-06-08T13:33:00.000-04:002007-06-08T13:33:00.000-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Tabitha.Montgomeryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07462651710980805568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19429534.post-73200786474949813802007-06-07T19:27:00.000-04:002007-06-07T19:27:00.000-04:00miles to go before I sleep... and I have miles to ...miles to go before I sleep... and I have miles to go before I sleep. You know the great thing about life is the chance to start over each and every day as we rack up the miles on our journey home. Trust is hard to give to the untrustworthy... but who says you have to trust in the Prince? Trust God... He alone will be able to help the both of you on the journey. And when you put your trust/faith in God then you can keep a watchful on the Prince as you pray in your heart. You'll be okay on your journey, and so will the Prince... if you... you guessed it... TRUST God!.Beth Blairhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11318506551967913628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19429534.post-89370813777585615182007-06-07T17:25:00.000-04:002007-06-07T17:25:00.000-04:00I'm so sorry your son hasn't seen that the program...I'm so sorry your son hasn't seen that the program is there to make his life better, not to get in the way of it. I hope he does figure that out soon. Unfortunately, you can't make that realization for him. <BR/><BR/>Pat is right, hope is important.<BR/><BR/>My thoughts are with you.Judithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16354890444410748967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19429534.post-31378613875145295532007-06-07T15:43:00.000-04:002007-06-07T15:43:00.000-04:00Yeah, I hate that disease too. There are two thing...Yeah, I hate that disease too. There are two things about your post that raise the red sign for me. First, it is that thought he has about keeping some of the same friends. He will never succeed in sobriety if he hangs out with the same friends. Second, he does need a sponsor and he does need to work the steps. But you know, Kel, you cannot force sobriety on anyone. They have to want it themselves. As mothers this is the most difficult thing for us to accept. Remember the three C's. You did not cause it. You cannot control it and you cannot cure it. Take it from one who has been dealing with this for the last eight years, it is all true. But, there is always "Hope" and that is the thing you need to hold on to. Your son may fail or he may succeed. He may relapse, he may stay sober. Take care of yourself and "detach with love". You are in my thoughts.Patricia Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07231036049535477708noreply@blogger.com